Adoption into the family

Imagine with me if you will a family offering to adopt a teenage child. Let’s call the child Frank. Now Frank was living in a less than good environment and he hears that this family wants to adopt him. They offer him a home with loving parents who will meet all his needs. Frank thinks that this sounds like a good idea and accepts the offer. The family gives him a rule book so that he will know what is expected of him. However he does not want to take the time to read the book. He wants someone else to read it and tell him what it says. After hearing some of the book he decides he wants to stay right where he is, living the life he has been living but he wants everybody to know he is part of this other family. My question is: is he really a part of that family? Every household had rules so that it can function well. There also are things each person has to do to help the home function well. And that is why Frank does not want to actually go and live in this home, he does not want anyone else to tell him how he can live, he does not want anyone to expect him to do anything he does not want to do. My question is, are we like Frank? Do we want to be called Christian but not put in the effort to learn the rules for ourselves, to actually read the book ourselves? Do we expect a preacher to tell us what the book says? Do we think it is ok to decide what we can and can’t do? Do we understand that in a home there are things that need to be done and if we have the ability we are the ones who should be doing them? If Frank’s situation were presented to a judge, would that judge declare that Frank was part of that family? Oh he has the papers signed but honestly is he part of the family? Just saying!